Sunday, November 2, 2008

Not in my Country.

How can I bear another 6 weeks of this? Rhetorical question I know, and I'll do it for the money, which has already been accounted for. But it's not getting any easier. As you may know, little Mr Picky has been looking for a job ever since he has been here. He hasn't yet found one - at least not one that pays. (And it may be uncharitable, but I wouldn't give him a job either.) Anyway, after applying to about 30 different hotels, bars and restaurants, he decided that he would go for the Charity Shops, of which we have many in Hove (and Brighton). He knew that this would mean not being paid, but decided that his need for English conversation was greater than his need for money. Needless to say, he wasn't doing it for altruistic reasons. (Don't forget, there are no poor people in Cyprus!) The nice lady Manager at Barnardo's gave him a job last week, and he spent 40 minutes there on Friday (came away sneezing because of the "dirt and dust" ) and about an hour there yesterday, before giving up completely. When I asked him why, he replied - and this is verbatim - "I think, Margot, that these are lower-class people." My jaw dropped. I asked him to repeat what he had said, and he did, without a trace of shame. He then said "In my Country, we do not do this. People do not buy old clothes." Oh my God - I nearly reached across the table and slapped him. I didn't, but smartly replied " Well in this country we do - and it doesn't make us lower class." He had to amuse himself for the rest of supper, because I could hardly trust myself to speak to him. How can this young man be so positive that he is better than everyone else? As Daughter says, he dresses like a 50 year old, in ghastly jumpers that Oxfam would be hard-pressed to sell. He has no social graces, and not much in the way of manners. He's so full of himself that obviously no-one else exists - especially not "poor or lower-class" people. If this is the way of the world today, I don't want any part of it. Thankfully, I don't believe that most young people feel this way - especially not in this country. But I'm forgetting, he's not that young is he?

On a sunnier note, I forgot to tell you that last Monday evening I went with a BBF to see and hear Candace Bushnell talking about her new novel "One Fifth Avenue". The evening was hosted by City Books, and it was great fun. Candace Bushnell (of "Sex and the City" fame) is 49 and looks about 30 - she is very thin and groomed, as one would expect of a celebrity New Yorker in her income bracket. She was dressed in (probably) an Armani little black dress, with impossibly high heels and carried a gorgeous Designer leopard bag to die for. We were both completely bowled over by her - she talked about her life, her writing and her characters, and kept the audience spellbound for nearly an hour. Lots of people asked questions, and she then sat and signed copies of her book for anyone who had bought one. I couldn't keep my eyes off that handbag - as BBF said, it probably cost around £800 at the very least. And her face (again BBF noticed that her forehead didn't move, but who cares?). And her giant diamond hoop earrings. And her perfect swooping fall of blonde hair. Not bad for a very bright and talented broad who's going on 50.

PS. I have invited Gay Friend for supper tonight. I may not have mentioned it, but he collects Vintage and Antique clothes, and has a huge collection, mostly in store, which he hires or loans out. He obviously visits all the local Charity and Vintage Shops on a weekly basis, and knows all the Managers personally. I am looking forward to this - sparks will fly I hope. Keep you posted.


Working mum said...

I don't know how you stopped yourself from slapping him. What country doesn't recycle clothes and other stuff to help others?

I want to slap him and I've never met him!

auntiegwen said...

I would be so tempted to tell him to feck off back to his country !

Patience is obviously your middle name dear Margot x

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Working Mum, I'm glad you felt the same way too - I feel he needs a good slap, but I may have to wait 6 weeks to administer it!
M :-)

Hi Auntie Gwen - yes, it's so tempting but I do need the money!
Actually, I think Patience is a cool name, better than Joan anyway, which is my real middle name. M :-)

Rob Clack said...

Can't wait to hear about tonight!

Donna said...

Good NESS!!! Pop him one for Me, as well!! Wins the crown for Jerkdom!
Hope your dinner with Gay friend was fun!! Happy week sweetie!hughugs

Mean Mom said...

Oooh! Sorry about Mr Picky - he's a pain, isn't he? How old is he, then? He is not a good ambassador for his country.

Glad you had a good evening out with your friend and hope that you had a good meal last night. Anything interesting to report?

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Rob, well it was interesting - more later! M xx

Hi Donna - he's got a few slaps coming! I'll wait until he's about to go and then let loose. Dinner was fun, more news later.. Hugs M. xx

Hi Mean Mom, no - ambassador he's not. He says he's 25, but looks, acts and dresses a lot older.
Yes, I'll be reporting on the evening as soon as I get through catching up with you all! M xx

Expat mum said...

Well, since you can't change him in the short time you have, and really, why should you even bother - have a laugh at his expense and keep blogging about it!

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi expatmum, no, I'm sure I couldn't change him - and not sure I'd want to try anyway. Funnily enough, I do feel rather sorry for him - his view of life is not a happy one. He will never see the good stuff I think, and that will be his "reward". Can't wait for him to go - and yet I refuse to wish my life away.
I'll keep blogging about it anyway - it has its funny side!
M :-)

Mean Mom said...

Thanks for comments at my place. You're a star! LOL!

Crystal Jigsaw said...

Cannot wait to hear how your supper goes with gay friend! What a complete and utter ignorant ****. I would have thrown him out. I have no time for people like that.

CJ xx

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Mean Mom, you're most welcome - I feel it takes me ages to catch up with my friends - but it's always worth it. Love and thoughts, M xx

Hi Crystal - yes, I'll get around to reporting on our supper - I wish I could throw him out - it would be very satisfying, but sadly I need the money!! More to follow. M :-)

the mother of this lot said...

Ooh! Maybe Gay Friend will slap him then you'll feel better but not have the guilt!

Maybe he's been put into your ife just to increase your patience.....sorry, I'l go now shall I?

menopausaloldbag (MOB) said...

The arrogance of some people. I'm with Auntiegwen on this and tell he wee git to take a one way ticket rde back home.

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Jackie, actually Gay Friend was very polite and nice - typically.
And I'm sure you're right that we are sent these things to teach us something - not sure what at the mo! But I'm trying hard. M :-)

Hi Mob, thanks for that - I love your approach to life! It would be a joy to send him packing. Only 5 weeks to go... M :-(
PS I think I'll re-christen him "The wee Git" - it's much better than Mr Picky.