Sunday, July 13, 2008

Family Planning.

Oh Woe is Me. I've just finished the last piece of Toblerone and I didn't win the Lottery. Again. I'm sitting here Blogging, listening to the music on Donna's Blog (Made in Heaven), and wishing Summer would arrive. Actually, I don't really have anything to moan about, but that obviously isn't stopping me.

Yesterday I did get to see Son for the first time since the end of May. I drove up to London to visit him in his new flat, which is near Vauxhall. And to take his re-framed pictures and posters (plus the things I bought for him in France) as housewarming presents. They did look lovely, and Son was very pleased with them. The new flat has lots of white space, light and windows. It's very nice indeed, and Son and his friend are both delighted to have found a real home at last. Son looks happy but tired because his new job is really hard going at the moment, while he is establishing himself. That's the Music Business for you - he has to work in the office, take clients out for lunch, work some more, meet composers and artists and then take people out in the evenings to concerts or gigs or even to dinner. It's a hard life! It was so lovely to see him - even though it's plain to see that he doesn't actually need his Mum in the same way any more. I look at his dear face and just know that he's on his way in life - it's a wonderful feeling in many ways. We can read each other's minds, and we laugh at the same jokes. We both love reading and good writing, and we devour books. We both love Pink Floyd. We have hundreds of wonderful memories in common. And when he smiles at me and gives me a bear hug, I know how much he loves me. Silly old fool, aren't I? I drove back home, happy to have seen him, and perfectly happy to be leaving him to get on with his own life. That's progress.

Daughter also had cause to celebrate on Friday, because she was given the job she interviewed for last week. "Quite right too" I said - they would have been daft to turn her down. She starts work on the 21st. July, when she will be given a couple of days training, and after that she will be working just two days a week to begin with. This means that Grandson will have to go to Nursery for two long days (from 8am to 6pm) on Tuesdays and Thursdays, instead of his current three mornings a week. At least it will only be for a month or so before he starts Big School, (and I hope they'll come here for a little holiday before that) so I guess the timing is right. There's another one gone! It does feel as if they are all moving on. I'd better get on with the next stage of my life...

13 comments:

Donna said...

LOL....You're like me!! I have done this SO many times Hahaha..I clicked on the link, but there's no music....LOL....I love you for the thought though!!!!
Also happy for Daughter getting the job! Don't worry, that month before school will fly by for the little one....And what DO we do with the rest of our lives???.......lolol...I'm Really trying to put my "pieces" back together again and figure out...who is, "me". We'll figure it out...Happy week sweetie!!hughugs

aims said...

Not moving on - just moving forward because of the chances you gave them.

Crystal Jigsaw said...

You, my dear friend, should be extremely proud of yourself. From what you write in this post you have two wonderful offspring who are doing well for themselves in life. And I'm sure they wouldn't have got as far without your help, support and encouragement.

Crystal xx

Maggie May said...

You sound as though you brought them up very well. It is lovely to see them again after long absences. I find my life is all or nothing!

Mean Mom said...

It's great that everything is workng out so well for your son and daughter. It's as it should be and there is a lot of satisfaction to be had from seeing it happen. There seem to be so many pitfalls, nowadays, it's good to hear of 2 young people doing well.

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Oh dear Donna, I spent so long trying to get that link right. I am hopeless with all this stuff! Sorry. I'm thrilled about Daughter's new job too. What's next for us, I wonder? Hugs, M xx

Dear Aims, thank you so much for that. I've done my best (or my worst, as my Mum used to say)! M xx

Thank you, dear Crystal. I'm so pleased that they are free to move on - it's wonderful to have two such nice people in my life. M xx

Dear Maggie, thank you too - I love hearing from all my great blogging friends As you say, it's all or nothing! M xx

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Mean Mom, and thanks so much for visiting and for your comments. Yes, it's wonderful that they are doing well - at the moment. They've both tripped up several times, so I guess a good patch is due. Long may it last. M :-)

Working mum said...

It looks like you've done a good job. My mum always said her job was to enable her children to be independent. I'm hoping to do the same for my daughter. Now my mum's job (and yours) is to spoil her granddaughter (your grandson)!

Mom of Three said...

Fantastic news. I hope the economy over there is better than here, (though McCain's financial advisor called it only a "mental" recession)!

auntiegwen said...

It's really sad when you get to the last bit of toblerone, isn't it ?
Enjoy the grandson, my mum says she much prefers being a nana to a mum, I must have been a scourge of a child for her !!

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Working Mum - how perceptive of your Mum - I came to that conclusion, but it ssort of dawned on me gradually! Spoiling my Grandson is no problemo - I love that little tyke so much. M xx

Hi and welcome Mom of Three - how a recession can be "mental" is quite beyond me! Things are pretty awful here, finance-wise. It's tightening belts time all round. M :-(
PS Will come and visit you if I may. xx

Dear Auntie Gwen, don't put yourself down. I'm sure she loved you to bits - it's the lack of total responsibility, 24/7, that makes it easier. M xx
Ps Just found some more Toblerone.

Dusty Spider said...

Know just how you feel about your son. Mine is making his own way and seldom needs any input from me. Should be grateful I suppose but still getting used to that "has been" feeling. You've made me see another side, thanks so much for that. Flick xx

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi there Flick, nice to see you here again. I'm so pleased if it helps - we all go through highs and lows don't we? M xx